I know that jealousy and envy have always been around, but somehow I feel like lately it has been rearing its ugly head far too often. I mean, who hasn’t felt jealousy or envy before? Heck, I know I have. But when I look back, I know that I felt that way because deep down I was unhappy within myself. The person I was jealous of had something that I didn’t. But what good is it in hating on someone? Why can’t we be happy for them instead and take inspiration from their work so that we can also do better?
Blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.
It’s so much easier to congratulate someone on their hard work and well deserved success, than sit behind a screen being hateful and wishing bad things upon them. Why do we do it? It’s only harming to ourselves. We don’t benefit from all this hatred, it just makes our blood boil, puts us in a bad mood, and in general just makes our life way more miserable. So next time you feel like someone is doing better than you, or looks prettier, or has something you don’t, congratulate them, tell them they look beautiful, tell them you wish them all the success in the world, tell them you’re proud of them. I believe you get what you give in life, and the truth is that the minute you decide that you won’t get put down by other peoples accomplishments, and that instead you’ll take inspiration from them and decide to live a positive life, your life will change for the better.
When you feel like bashing someone else’s post or picture, think why is it that you’re reacting like that? What did that person do to you to deserve it? Is there something in your life that you’re not happy with? Think about how you would feel if someone said mean things to you, and always remember that that person could be going through a hard time that you know nothing about, and your comment is just going to make their hard time even harder.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that instead of being bitter or jealous over somebody else’s success, allow yourself to be inspired by it. Let it motivate you to improve your life, wether it’s your career, lifestyle or fitness journey, allow it to motivate you to do better, work harder everyday and make an effort to reach your goals, nobody is going to do it for you. And for goodness sake can we please stop comparing ourselves to other people?! I know we all do it and sometimes we just can’t help it, but when you feel those thoughts creeping into your head, remember that life isn’t a competition. The only person you should be competing with is yourself, to better your life in every aspect. There is so much room for everyone at the top, why are we trying to knock people down on our way up? At the end of the day we all need someone to share our achievements with, and who’s going to be there for you when you can’t be there for anyone else? I’m not saying we’re not allowed a bad day, a day where we want to feel sorry for ourselves, because we all feel crappy at some point, as long as we don’t project our insecurities onto somebody else.
Don't be ashamed of what motivates you.
With all of this said, I want to mention the girls that I feel very inspired by, and that motivate me to work hard to achieve my goals. Em Sheldon for being the sweetest blogger, who always replies to her followers, who is major body goals and always spreads positivity. Victoria, who is just the biggest babe, her success is so inspirational and I'm so proud for all that she's achieving right now. Definitely deserves it! And finally, Lydia, I discovered her YouTube channel a couple of months ago and she's come so far since! These three ladies are people I look up to. They're the kind of girls that use their success to inspire and not to show off, and that is something truly remarkable in the world we live in today.
Lastly I have to shoutout my best friend Glace and her fashion blog, and Stephanie on Instagram. I don’t know if I’ll ever make it in the blogging world, but if I do, I’d love to get there with these two babes. Give them a follow, you won’t regret it :)
Have you ever felt jealousy? What did you do to overcome it? Would love to know your thoughts on this.
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Lots of love, SFS.